Sunday, July 28, 2013

We don't exhale enough........


Yogis,

Take a moment to simply observe your breath.  What happens on the inhale?  What words would you use to describe it?  What about the exhales?  How do they make you feel?  How do they differ from each other?

Lately I have noticed that we have become  a world filled with inhaling…....with not nearly enough exhaling.

 
As a baby we enter the world with that very first magnificent drawing in of life through our breath.    The inhale.  The taking in, expanding, growing and filling.  Breathing in all of the joy and opportunity that life has to offer.

Our childhood and busy young adult lives are represented by the inhale.  The waxing moon, reaching its peak when full.  The lengthening days that fill the space between the winter and summer solstice, providing us steadily increasing light by which more can be done.   The time each day from the approaching dawn until that point in the late afternoon when you can feel that downward shift of energy which signals the march toward dusk.

The inhale allows us to move forward in our careers, buy houses to fill with children and  beautiful things, expand our talents and run fast.  It is the receiving…..the taking in.

But with breath, just as with everything in life there is the necessary opposite flow….the exhale.  The letting go.  But many  of us have lost touch with this amazing friend that we have right inside.

Our world is filled with so much intensity and so many possibilities, that it becomes tempting to inhale, inhale, inhale.  Go. Go. Go.   More. More. More. That feeling of always having to stay “one step in front of” the other person, the to do list, or  the next big sale.  The fear of exhaling perhaps because it may be seen as a form of weakness.  Of not trying hard enough.  We have somehow all been convinced that more is better (think about that for a moment), and it is the inhale that will bring it to us.  Forward motion.

But the consistent inhaling of our society is taking its toll.   Sleeplessness is rampant.  Stiff necks, upset stomachs, locked jaws and an ever increasing numbers of those with heart disease.   We live in a world filled with stress and when we chest breathe and inhale more than we exhale, we invite it in and serve it tea.  And once it has settled in and gotten comfortable there, eventually it will show itself to you in the form of an ache, pain or illness.  

Luckily for all of us, we have the best prescription there is within us at all times……..the exhale.  Long, slow, complete, relaxing exhales.   But you have to practice!   Exhaling completely.   Exhaling more.  Way past the point where you normally stop.  Emptying.  Notice how after just a few of them your mind slows and muscles soften. 

I just returned from a week at the beach with a group of about 40 friends (no we don’t stay in one house!).   On vacations we eventually begin to exhale more so that by the end of the week everyone even looks slightly different.  The shoulders drop down from the ears.  The lips soften and the hands relax.   And I noticed that when we exhale more there is a lot more laughing/giggling/general silliness and dancing.  Yes!

So my message is not to step out of life or to take a permanent vacation.  But simply to exhale more.  We can allow the stress to come in with the inhale as long as we show it to the door  with the exhale.   Moving forward, but remembering to also step back to observe.   Bringing new in, but being sure to let the old go at the same rate, or life becomes much too crowded.  Everything should flow through us without the need to attach and hold on.  

Flowing in…..flowing out.   Be aware.  Exhale more.  You will be glad you did.

Giggling until my sides ached,
SARAH

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